This story is a part of the My Unsung Hero collection from the Hidden Brain workforce about individuals whose kindness left an enduring impression on another person.
When Deb Merchant of Albany, Ore. was identified with breast most cancers in 2003, she gave her boyfriend a selection: he may “opt out” of their relationship.
“He didn’t hesitate to say, ‘No, we’re a team, we’re doing this together,'” Deb recounts. “And so we did.”
Merchant had been courting Scott Stevens for a few years at that time, and collectively they navigated the trail by way of remedy.
Stevens was with Merchant by way of the biopsies, the radiations, and heavy medicine. He was there when Merchant beat the breast most cancers, and he was there just a few years later when her most cancers got here again.
This time, Merchant would require surgical procedure in addition to six months of chemotherapy remedies that began in early 2007.
“Our first visit, I thought for sure that Scott would drop me off, head back to his office to continue his work and come pick me up at the end of the day,” Merchant mentioned. “And instead, he stayed with me all day, making sure I had the right food and tea, being comfortable in a chair with the right pillow and warm blanket.”
Then, he went one additional.
“He went to the next person and asked them, are you comfortable? Can I get you anything? Would you like a warm blanket or a pillow? How about some hot tea?”
“Then he went to the next person and the next person and the next person.”
Merchant says she thought it might cease after the primary day, however that Stevens caught it out each week by way of chemotherapy. And each week he went to each individual in each chair to test on them.
“Scott’s care and love of people comes first,” Merchant mentioned. “He has actually said to me ‘I will take love over money any day.'”
That love is the rationale she did not must face most cancers alone.
“We went through chemotherapy together,” she mentioned.
Today, Merchant has been most cancers free for 13 years. She and Stevens like to hike, snowshoe, and camp within the Cascade Mountains.
“It’s his commitment to be present for someone he loves that made a huge difference in my life and that is why he is my unsung hero,” she mentioned.
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